I think everyone will agree that guilt doesnt feel good. It is a negative emotion, and it can lead to many more negative emotions, such as low self-esteem, depression, self-loathing and a need for self-punishment. Feeling guilty can become a lifelong habit. When we have an event, or even a series of events from our past that we feel guilty about, we can easily end up spending our lives trying to make up for it somehow. We carry the guilt around on our backs like a pack until it becomes so much a part of us that it becomes indistinguishable from our present life.

And then there is the guilt trip, defined as "To make or try to make (someone) feel guilty." Guilt trips are laid on others. Guilt trips are the result of those negative, pesky twins, Blame and Shame. Whenever one person blames another for some negative event, he or she will heap on the shame and blame, and before anyone knows what is happening, the recipient is off on a guilt trip.

Guilt is a useless emotion. It is an energy vampire, and it will suck the life out of you if you let it. If there is a tangible event in your life that you are feeling guilty about, it is time to forgive yourself and let it go. The past is the past, and it is unchangeable. You can never go back in time and undo the event. So the best thing to do in the here and now is to deal with it. No matter how terrible it was, or appears to you, forgive yourself. If you need help to forgive yourself, then get it. Taking that pack off your back is an amazing thing. It frees you and your life up for things like happiness, joy and self-esteem.

Guilt trips make lousy vacations. No one ever has fun on a guilt trip. If someone is putting blame and shame onto you, it is time to stop allowing it to happen. Someone can only do this to you if you allow them to! The truth is, no matter what you may have done, or not done, no one has the right to make you feel guilty. It merely means they cant forgive. That is their problem, not yours! Allowing this may be that you are being co-dependant. Cut the bonds that tie you to this, forgive yourself and move on. It may be difficult, but it is well worth the effort.

If you are sending someone else on a guilt trip, time to stop and take responsibility for your own actions. If someone has done something to hurt you, making them feel bad is childish and hurtful. Seek forgiveness within yourself. Even if what the person has done seems unforgivable, you dont actually have to have contact with this person to forgive them in your heart. This is a very healing and empowering thing for YOU. When you forgive another person, it frees you.

Guilt, and all of its close relatives, blame, shame, fear and anger, creates a huge wall. It stops all forward progress in life. It is time to tear down that wall and move forward. On the other side, the grass is green, the sun is shining and flowers are blooming. Birds are singing and better times are waiting for you. Once you eliminate guilt from your life, you will be able to see that you deserve to be there.

The Honest Way to Get Rich You can get everything you want in life as long as you give others enough of what they want. If you give nothing of value, you get nothing of value. Your method of exchange determines your wealth. The type of exchange determines your financial success. Let's point out four types of exchange. "1. First consider a group which takes in money but does not deliver anything in exchange. This is called the rip-off."- L. Ron Hubbard  Examples of this first condition:: You pay a $1,000 deposit for a new car. The dealer goes bankrupt. You get no car and no refund. A plumber loosens a pipe, shows you the "leak," tightens the fitting, makes noise, charges you $159. Someone in your office avoids doing work. Lots of excuses, lots of smoke screen, no work, full pay. This first exchange condition is basically theft. The second exchange condition is cheating. "2. Second is the condition of partial exchange. The group takes in orders or money for goods and then delivers part of it or a corrupted version of what was ordered." L. Ron Hubbard Examples: County fair booth promises to show you a two-headed cow, but actually shows an odd-looking skeleton. The "$99 Dream Vacation Package" turns out to be a smelly motel room by the freeway. Instead of working, an employee reads a magazine, surfs the net or makes personal calls while being paid. "3. The third condition is the exchange known, legally and in business practice, as `fair exchange.' One takes in orders and money and delivers exactly what has been ordered." L. Ron Hubbard Most successful companies and individuals use this principle. Examples: You pay for a dozen fresh eggs, you get a dozen fresh eggs. A $10-per-hour employee works 40 hours of normal work and is paid $400. You pay your power bill and get electricity. "4. The fourth condition of exchange is not common but could be called exchange in abundance. Here one does not give two for one or free service but gives something more valuable than money was received for." "This fourth principle above is almost unknown in business or the arts. Yet it is the key to howling success and expansion." L. Ron Hubbard Individuals and businesses who use this fourth method of exchange flourish when others are in trouble. You pay an artist for a painting who then frames it for you at no extra charge. You invest with a real-estate group expecting a 12% return each year and get 15% instead. An employee not only does all of her own work, she trains a new employee, works on her day off when another employee calls in sick and assumes new management responsibilities without demanding more pay. Employees who give more than expected receive promotions, raises, bonuses and extra benefits. Job security is excellent as they are valuable to the company. Businesses that exchange in abundance get more referrals than anyone. Investors are anxious to buy its stock. Customer loyalty is guaranteed. At first, giving more than expected seems unfair. You give extra effort without recognition. You add value to your work or products without anyone noticing. Yet eventually, you rise to the top. People like working with you above others. Your company is selected above the competition. You earn a reputation of being more than fair. Instead of trying to get more, work on giving more as your method of operation and see what happens!

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